Dealing with change


We can all agree that we have endured some changes in our lives from time to time and frankly that probably won’t change. We are always going to experience this and we should all look at it in a positive way. For a long time I was not a fan of change, I liked being comfortable because change scared me. I won’t lie, change is sometimes still a little intimidating to me depending what it is BUT I choose to have a positive attitude about it. Too many people choose to look at change as a negative, instead of a positive. Change is good, change allows us to in turn change as well. It helps us grow and challenges us in great ways. I want to talk about a few changes that are common, of course there are a ton more but I wanted to highlight these few and talk about how I have dealt with them and/or how they can be handled If I haven’t experienced them. This might be a long one, so I hope you read til the end and it’s able to speak to your heart!

Topics:

  • Relationships/friendships 

  • Weight

  • Job

  • Life


Relationships/friends:

When change comes in the form of a relationship or friendship, it can be hard. It’s so easy to just fall into a state where we are sad, act out, get angry and shut out others. I have been there and I know that I personally went about it the wrong way for a while until I started to handle it the right way. When this happens it is normal that you’re going to be upset, but don’t sulk in that feeling. You aren’t alone, God hears you and sees you. When you lean into Him, He gives you all the strength you need. 

Matthew 11:28-30; Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” 

He literally tells us to trust Him, giving everything we are feeling and experiencing to Him. God gives and takes away, Job 1:21; And he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” If the Father removes someone from our life, trust Him because He knows what He is doing. He could be sparing you from disaster, pain, or a mistake. In no way are His intentions to harm us. 

Jeremiah 29:11; For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

When I experienced hard ships in my life, I ran to Jesus. I poured my heart out to Him on a daily, and I felt so much freedom and comfort doing this because I knew He cared and He was listening. If you need to talk to Him every day, and tell Him all that you have in your heart, He is not going to turn away. He is waiting with open arms, a listening ear and enormous amounts of love for you. I remember one night, I was down on my knees just praying, talking and crying it out to Him. I gave it all to Him and then I heard Him say to me, “It isn’t over.” I didn’t know then what He was referring to at the time, but now looking back I do see! The change did not happen in a day, but He responded and showed me what He meant. Our God doesn’t abandon, He loves, comforts, protects and teaches. 

When it comes to friendships, if we are being honest here not all will last forever. This is something that I couldn’t agree with when I was growing up but I have learned the truth of this. At first I was bitter, angry, confused, because of course you think “why, how, I miss them, we had a great friendship, is it me” but friends it’s okay. It’s okay to be sad about this change but do not be bitter, bitterness is not a seed you want to sow. You WILL have people leave your life, without warning, without any reason and you just have to accept it. Don’t fight it because as my husband has told me, “maybe God is removing this person from your life.” He’s right, maybe God needs this person to be removed from your life, It could be that it won’t lead to any growth, it could be limiting/harming us without us knowing or they were only meant to be in our lives for a certain season. God has His reasons, and there is no point to fight because He just knows what is best. Pray for that person and just continue on, God will place better people in your path! 

So, here are tips for dealing with these changes:

  • Draw near to God

  • Stay positive, and look at the positive

  • Stay close to friends, family

  • Don’t be vengeful, bitter or hateful

  • Pray for those who have hurt you

  • Stay strong

  • Continue to be loving and don’t let these experiences diminish/defeat you


Weight:

This is a touchy subject you can say but I want to talk about it because it’s something that can negatively affect someone so much and that shouldn’t happen. When it comes to changes in weight whether you have lost or gained, just go with the flow and do what you find best. Society paints this very impossible standard for women to be and that is not okay. NO ONE is perfect. EVERY body type is BEAUTIFUL, BUT if you don’t believe that then that’s a whole other issue in its own.

God made each of us uniquely, we were not meant to all look the same, so If you’re fixated on looking like another girl you know, are friends with or some celebrity then just stop now. Until you truly accept, love and respect yourself, you won’t be happy. Plus, God made us in HIS image… soooo, if Gods beautiful, so are YOU. Genesis 1:27; “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Many times we will see people try time and time again to imitate and be exactly like another person. We see them try to do this with a similar hair color, attire, lifestyle, voice, even taking the extreme to physically change themselves. No matter how hard they may try, it is not possible to do. Why? Because God specifically formed us all in a different way, not a single one alike. Even twins who look exactly alike have their differences. God wanted it this way, He wanted us all different to reflect how unique and beautiful we were created. Point is no matter how much you try to be like another person, it just isn’t do-able because it was never meant to be. 

So, my beautiful friends, if maybe your body has changed a little in a way you’re not thrilled about, then do something about it! Do the necessary HEALTHY things to get yourself fit like you’d like! I know this can be hard, I am personally working on myself everyday and though it can be tiresome, I am choosing to LOVE myself through it and stay positive. If God loves me and my husband things over the moon of me then why am I going to be a negative Nancy.. 

Again here are some tips:

  • LOVE yourself

  • Don’t tear yourself or others down

  • make HEALTHY choices

  • Stop comparison

  • Thank God for who you are and how He made you

  • Remember you are a beauty

Job:

Like mentioned earlier change happens quite frequently in life and we just need to go with the flow. A change in scenery especially in the workplace can sometimes be challenging BUT if you keep your chin up and stay positive, it can be a lot easier of a transition! First I want to mention that inviting God into your day is key and a need honestly. When we start our day with The Father in prayer and giving Him our day, it will make a huge difference. He’s with us through it all and helps us in our time of need! Now, dealing with negative people at work whether in the form of a coworker or boss is tough. I’ve been there but I had my way of handling these issues. I would just be me, trying not to allow a negative environment or person get the best of me. I would always make sure to have a great job performance, just because you don’t like a place does not mean you have the freedom to slack off or be rude and obvious about it because that’s not every professional. Whenever I needed a little extra boost of encouragement I had written down multiple verses on small pieces of paper and stored them in a small box. Every time I had a rough day or just wanted to receive that encouragement, I would pick a verse randomly read it and feel great. Also, surrounding your work environment with things that make you smile are a plus! Lastly, spread love, maybe you can be that person that brightens up a dull or negative work place. God calls us to be a light, Matthew 5:16, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” Maybe that is exactly what that grumpy person needs haha. Also, constantly talking with the Father and prayer is essential. When we lean in close to The Father, He gives us the strength we need. 

Tips:

  • Stay strong and positive

  • Lean into God

  • Invite Jesus into your day

  • Be a light

  • Work hard

  • Be a difference

  • Surround yourself with positivity

Life:

Life has curve balls all the time, but with every rough patch we encounter, there is growth and blessing behind it. The things that happen are not by coincidence, God has a plan for us and if we are not doing what He wants, you can bet He will make some changes. Proverbs 19:21; “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand.” When we are willing to give up entirely what we want to be given the incredible things God can give us then handling life changes will be easier and a lot more joyful! Not to say that we won’t have hard days but we will tackle them with grace, trusting in the Lord and joy. God has only the best in store for us and we better start believing it!! Life is beautiful, every day we are given the enormous blessing to wake up and be alive. I encourage you to try your hardest in having more of a positive attitude and I know I have been saying that a lot but the truth is, this world is filled with too much negativity. People would rather sulk in being sad, angry, negative, having such a bad outlook on honestly everything, instead of choosing to be the opposite of that. Be a light that shines bright, let Jesus be your light and show you how to live, how to have a different outlook. You’ll never regret giving your life to Jesus, I can promise that. 

Tips: 

  • Lean into God

  • Stay positive

  • Have a thankful heart

  • Take on each challenge and change with joy and faith

I pray that this was able to help you and God spoke to you. If you need prayer or someone to talk to you are always welcome to message me here or on instagram! Jesus loves you and I pray that if you haven’t already, you’ll give Him your heart and take that incredible step to living a new life with Him! 

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